Posts Tagged ‘life’

Just Say Yes

All my life I have been known as the friend who is the opposite of
spontaneous. I know a week ahead of time eacactly when I’ll be going
to the gym, when I’ll be watching my tivod shows, and where my money
will be going. So when a friend texts me asking to join them for
dinner right that second while I’m laying on my bed reading, I say no.

Lately tho (call it a mid year resolution), I have realized that the
funnest things and best experiences tend to happen when they’re
unplanned. Like making new friends, taking pictures that will last a
lifetime, or other occurences that you don’t even know will affect you
weeks later.

So now I am living by the mantra “just say yes” which is my modern day
version of “carpe diem.” Many may associate this phrase with the 90s
slogan “Just Say No [to drugs], and I assure you they have no
relevance! I have already found a positive affect in my life from this
newfound mantra, and it has even spread as far as me being the one
initiating the spontanteous activities!

I hope I will be able to continue on with this lifetsyle and report
back on it’s success!


Kill Them With Kindness

There are so many cliched phrases that have to do with being nice to people you don’t like being around: “kill them with kindness,” “keep your friends close, your enemies closer..” I could go on and on. And while this seems like information that promotes people to be fake towards one another, I have found that the more time I spend being nice to someone I’d rather not be, the more I actually enjoy being around them, and life in general.

Life can get lonely when you’re unhappy. When people around you see that you’re in a bad mood (i.e. a scowl on your face) you’re highly unapproachable. Now if you’re the type of person that just needs some time alone when you’re in a bad mood, this is great because people will stay far away. But if you just need someone to cheer you up, faking it is the easiest thing to do.

I remember one day last year I was not having the best time at work. Between things being sour outside of work, being tired, and not performing my best, I was just not in a great mood. I was always known for being bubbly and happy so when I snapped at one of my coworkers he knew he had to do something. He gave me some great advice: Fake the biggest smile you can for 30 seconds and guaranteed it will put you in a better mood. I thought this was the dumbest thing I’d ever heard, but 10 seconds in I was cracking up at how stupid we all looked.

Lesson of the day is: If you’re around people you don’t like or are in a bad mood, just make the best of the situation. Put a smile on, ask someone something about themselves, and maybe you will find yourself in a happier place.

Everyone always says it takes more muscles to frown than to smile. So stop working so hard, and just grin!